tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834286162949291167.post4395585165118857014..comments2023-09-22T00:01:29.074+10:00Comments on Squishy Bum Mum: You're a bit young aren't you??!Squishy Bum Mumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05807481252599172979noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834286162949291167.post-5068934288478783322010-05-26T09:53:46.959+10:002010-05-26T09:53:46.959+10:00I became a mum 6 weeks before my 19th birthday. My...I became a mum 6 weeks before my 19th birthday. My oldest child is now 5 years old. I have 2 other sons , aged 3 and half yrs old and 20months old. People often ask if they are from the same father (yes they are) and if they were accidents (it wouldn't matter if they were would it they are here now lol)we are actually almost a year into TTC#4. I dont care who thinks if i am a great mum or not. at the end of the day, i do what works for my boys. <br />That being said I can think fo a few mums who are my age and have no clue. And i feel bad for their children.Ratbag Mummahttp://ratbagmumma.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834286162949291167.post-41914170788692939942010-04-26T20:45:32.842+10:002010-04-26T20:45:32.842+10:00I was a young mum. Im now finally NOT one. I just ...I was a young mum. Im now finally NOT one. I just turned 26. But, my son is 10 1/2 (I had him at 15 1/2), my elder daughter is 8 1/2 and my youngest is 18 months. I found it to be a huge challenge to win approval, and since I moved interstate with my boyfriend (now Husband) when my son was only 12 months old, I really felt I needed to. I was 16 1/2; Tris, who was NOT my son's father, was 19. He had a job already, but because of my age and family situation, I could not get one. We planned my daughter, and I was pregnant within 3 months of moving to be with him. But people automatically thought that I was stupid, because I had 2 babies at 17. I was a good mum though. I looked after my kids, and every time FAYS were called (usually due to misguided concern that was more due to my age than genuine concerns of neglect), they said there was no reason for them to be there. <br /><br />I was a better mum at 15 than many women I know are at 40. I am STILL a better mum.<br /><br />And you know what, I wouldnt change it for the world. Even though Im unwell, Im still young enough to enjoy them, to appreciate what they are going through, and to remember it for myself. I will be young enough to enjoy my Grandkids.<br /><br />And to put it simply, why the hell do we ovulate at 13 (for me it began at 9...) if we are not meant to start producing babies while we are still young?!??<br /><br />Talk about cultural madness!Busy lil' Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01147772911184364775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834286162949291167.post-36032306540442102012010-02-24T10:44:14.594+11:002010-02-24T10:44:14.594+11:00I agree whole-heartedly...I'm turning 21 in ap...I agree whole-heartedly...I'm turning 21 in april,my partner will be 29,and my daughter will be 1 in may.<br /><br />I WAS a heavy pot smoker, until i fell pregnant with my daughter,and my life was put into perspective.<br /><br />I have many friends that i am no longer close to with children,that pass their kids off onto any old person,and spend their weekends drinking cocktails, and hanging out with "the girls".....What happened to mothers being real mothers? Not just vessels that carry a child for 9 months, birth it, then palm it off?<br />It angers me so damn much,and i have a very hard time trying to find DECENT friends,as i tend to find most other mums my age simply dont have time in between drinking and "having fun" to spend quality time with their bubba's...<br />Sorry this is a long rant, but i feel VERY strongly about this!<br /><br />Great blog by the way :)Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07141966985351686085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834286162949291167.post-90650597062523021622010-02-23T17:30:07.617+11:002010-02-23T17:30:07.617+11:00Hmmm I agree Squishy Bum Mum. It is difficult bein...Hmmm I agree Squishy Bum Mum. It is difficult being around other young mums who don't have the same intentions i do, who seem not to care as much as we do, i have seen a few mums like that.. However i have also seen mums like this beyond teenage years and beyond the early 20s, smoking weed while pregnant, taking pills etc...I feel the need to help these young mums as they obviously don't have the support we had, they don't have the education we have, they don't have the simple love from their partners like we have.<br /><br /><br />I am 19, I am engaged to my partner who I have been with for almost 3 years. A lot of people look at me like 3 years is nothing and that i cant possibly be in love at my age.. I think they can go jump in a lake... <br />I think that we should make it our intention..people like us, young mums like us.. to influence and be a positive role model to the young mums out there who don't have the life we do.... I don't think I would have ever been ready to have kids, who is? It just happened and I wouldn't change it for the world.<br />And I went to a pregnancy class today and brought my 3 month old daughter to share my experiences and hope that my positive attitude and my dedication to my baby girl and be the best mum ever rubs off on the other girls who aren't in the same place as me. :) - its because they have negative influences in their lives, but we don't, I present myself in hope that I can help any of these girls, be-friend them and influence them into better decision making and help mould them into the great mum that every single woman/teenager can be.<br /><br />on another note you spoke about before...Personally the one thing i hate the most from judgemental A**holes is the "did the dad stick around or run off" I find it so rude - Yes actually we are engaged to be married and he is 27 years old and works 14 hour days in blistering heat to put a roof over our heads...got to love the look on their face after they realise I'm not a teenager, I am a mum, with a loving fiance and a beautiful daugher. I am not a kid.Laurenhttp://www.facebook.com/Bonnie90noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834286162949291167.post-10573957812657566662010-02-14T19:50:20.418+11:002010-02-14T19:50:20.418+11:00I totally know how you feel. I was 19, and looked...I totally know how you feel. I was 19, and looked maybe 15 or 16. I worked at Starbucks at the time. It would be the middle of a school day, I'd be at work, and people would ask me what grade of high school I was in, all filled with pity and crap. <br /><br />One chick actually ranted about how school girls "like me" shouldn't "sleep around", and how being a single teen mom was going to be so hard, blah blah blah. When I told her I was married to the ONLY man I've ever been with, and nearly 20, she just scoffed like she thought I was lying. <br /><br />People are awesome.That Freebie Placehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11341339813435372643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834286162949291167.post-34227687903247356332010-02-14T14:17:05.093+11:002010-02-14T14:17:05.093+11:00I know a LOT of young mums (I went to 3 different ...I know a LOT of young mums (I went to 3 different high schoosl and I'm one of the few left without babies - I'm only 23!) And most of them are doing a wonderful job! Most of them are married, or with a long term partner, their partner works, some of the mums do, some don't, some are going to uni etc. They are mostly between 21-25 and are doing the best they can and strive to continue doing the best they can for their kids. They are such amazing women and I admire them for doing what they do.<br /><br />Well done on arising above the stereotype :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834286162949291167.post-14666482084105894182010-02-12T16:33:57.425+11:002010-02-12T16:33:57.425+11:00I have had a similar experience to you in regards ...I have had a similar experience to you in regards to young mums. <br /><br />I am not with my childrens father but I am a mum who enjoys being a mum and doing MUM things and spending time with my children.<br /><br />I found the young mums groups were often seen as an opportunity to meet others who wanted to get smashed or hang out in shopping centres and I was told by the person who ran the group that I would have been better off running the group then participating and I had outgrown it(I was 18!)<br /><br />I am a mum who has spent time trying to rise above the stereotype and just be seen as a mum like any other. <br /><br />I now have a few friends who are under 25 and excellent mums (one became a mum at 15) and I admire them for being able to be the best mums they can be regardless of age or despite of.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14674863393575535558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834286162949291167.post-33992557472986737902010-02-12T16:09:35.323+11:002010-02-12T16:09:35.323+11:00I was 21 and married when my 1st son was born. I t...I was 21 and married when my 1st son was born. I too got the comments. I have/do feel what you have written.<br /><br />Most of my friends are older too. lol.<br /><br />I tend not to tell people my age unless they specifically ask.Clarindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08527040109994849082noreply@blogger.com