Today giggle girl, daddy and I are having a day just chilling out at home.
It makes me feel for families who always have something on. Be it soccer or ballet or music or medieval costume design lessons.
I know giggle girl is still very little and we haven't got to the stage when she asks to do activities on weekends.
It makes me wonder if over-committed children are missing out on just being kids? I know that learning a music instrument or playing a team sport can have lots of positive benifits to a childs development but I mean when there are fingers in far too many pies.
I went to a small private school for the first part of my high school years. It was for kindergarten to year 10 students and although I was part of many extra after school activities but nothing compared to the student I was a mentor for who was in year 6. (schhol program, not my idea!)
this little girl who was only about 11 or 12 years old at the time but she did flute lessons one afternoon a week (plus practice) violin lessons one lunchtime a week and had about 3 different tutors for different subjects. She also played junior netball (practice one afternoon a week plus weekend games) and swimming squad two afternoons a week.
I don't know when this little girl got to play with her friends. I know that her parents were just trying to the best for her and you can't fault them for trying, but putting too much on her plate can be just as bad as doing nothing at all.
How many activities do your kids do? And do they still have time to be kids??
Sunday, February 28, 2010
Confess your secret- squishybum mum's version of post secret
My parents trusted me when I was little because i was the
"good child" my sister was 2 years older and in her teens and not to be trusted obviously lol my parents used to hide their alcohol in my room (midori and such irresistible lolly drinks) my trick was drinking the whole freakin lot and then acting totally innocent while my sister got the blame haha
I also drank and entire bottle of port that was on display at the house once with a friend when i was a kid and we were so trashed and didn't know what to do that we filled it up with water and put the lid back on.... this bottle is still on display waiting for a special occasion and i am 26 now LOL!!!! I can't WAIT for the day it gets opened hahaha
Female-Australia
26 years ago I spent almost one year in Sydney, I was very young and madly in love with an Australian guy.
Fate tore us apart but I'm still in love with him, although I'm married and mother of four children here in Austria.
I don't know nothing about him.
He was the first man in my life and I wish he would be my last...
Female-Europe
I have a secret.
I like pornography. Well maybe "like" is inadequate, I actually have a borderline obsession with it. I could spend up to and hour or two a day watching it if time permitted. Not sure why. I very rarely masturbate while I watch, and I usually watch it alone, there's just something about it that I really enjoy. Usually I prefer to watch Group sex scenes, or threesomes involving two men and one woman, but I'll give most things ago. I also really enjoy reading erotic fiction, the more hardcore stuff.
So there's my secret.
Female- Australia
My arsehole of an Ex boyfriend asked if i thought his penis was small.....
i said it wasn't....
I lied!!!
(it was Tiny!)
Female- Australia
I want sex with my husband to be kinkier than it currently is.
but don't know how to tell him
Female- Australia
Care to confess your secret?
Love and Smiles
Z
xox
Thursday, February 25, 2010
Birth stories- Sarah
Hello I would like to share with you all my birth stories as a guest blogger on squishy bum mum.
My name is Sarah and I'm a 23yo SAHM of two beautiful children Joel and Chloe
My partner and I found out we where pregnant very early as I knew something was up as my period was late and my breasts were also killing me.
After waiting a few days we I set of to get a pregnancy test after work, I couldn't wait till Chris got home so I did it straight away
There is was in clear two lines, we were pregnant!
I started to cry and had to get a brown paper bag to calm myself down, after calming down I got on the phone to Chris.
Chris seemed to think that I'm a bit of ditz when it comes to some things so he was going to buy another for me to do when he got home.
So we did and yep pregnant!
So we decided to make a decisions right there and then we would give each other a few days and then tell each other what we wanted.
The two days came and on the count of three we said out loud.... we are having a baby!
All our appointments went by, we find out we were having a little boy, thinking of names none of them where good.
The night October 7th 2007 I went into labour, mild labour nothing serious, though we went and saw my midwife and she sent me home with a few sleeping tablets and some panadol.
I couldn't sleep as the pain was getting worse and more intense, morning come and we went back to my midwife she looked at me and said yep you're in labour and did a internal and said I was only 3 cms dilated and to go home and try and get some rest!
At this time i was overwhelmed by the pain and exhausted. This was only around 9am, by lunch time I was worried and scared so we went back to the hospital were my midwife meet us there and well she did another internal and i was only 4cm dilated.
So she gave us the choice stay here or go home so we stayed there.
She gave me some morphine and I slept for a few hours and woke up so some full blown contractions.
By 8pm that night I was still only4 cm dilated as time went by and by walking up and down the hall way gas come and went I couldn't for the life me overcome these pains.
By 1 am they broke my water to start things along and well didn't that do something....I was in so much pain I couldn't move off the bed.
Chris my partner never left my side. I got all my strength from him, and then as time went by it felt like hours but it was only minutes.
My midwife said it was time for a eppie nothing else was working so we went up stairs to the antenatal word they got me up on the bed and the doctor come in here I was worried about the doctor seeing me naked and Chris was worried about the huge needle he was about to put in my back I will never forget his face it was wild and he looked like he was about to punch the doctor out!
I slept for most of the morning it was about 3 am Joel heart beat started to fade but they kept an eye on his heart and all was fine I feel asleep listening to his heart beat. Chris on the floor trying to sleep.
The midwife come in around 8am and checked me yep I was 10 cms dilated so here we go!! They turned the epidural off as it was time for me to feel the contractions again, oh god I was thinking.
But with every contractions I pushed and Chris whispered in my ear with every big push we get closer to meeting our son!
He was crowning and the midwife asked Chris if he wanted to have a look and so he did and at that moment he also named our son Joel. At 9:05am
Joel Cecil was born 9th October 2007 8 pounds and 4 ounces 51 cms.
Joel was 18mth old and we found out we were pregnant again with our second baby!
We were shocked but so very grateful, it was great telling Joel he was going to be a big brother, yet we knew he didn't fully understand.
It feels like a life time ago I was pregnant but it was only 4 mths ago.
I called my midwife, the same midwife that i had with Joel, and told her I was pregnant and she took me on straight away. Appointments were easy i knew what we where doing this time, the 20 week ultra sound come up and we wanted to know the sex but they couldn't get a good look, so we went for a walk for a while and went back.
She said it looks like a girl 70 percent! That was going to do me. We were going to have a little girl. We were all so excited and happy!
Her due date was the 14th of October not planned at all, I was hoping she didn't come on Joel's second birthday the little girl stayed in. :)
Went in to the midwife on the 15th as bubs was still not out and they where going to induce me on the 20th i wasn't looking forward to that as I have heard some nasty stories.
The night of the 18th come and still no sign's at all then i had unexpected bleeding it started to get a lot heavier so called my midwife and went in and stayed over night while I was monitored.
Everything seemed fine. Joel was staying at his grandmothers and I I was contracting on and off all though the night and with only two sleeping tablets I was sleeping though them it was great! I didn't think i was in labour at all.
Then the doctor come in and check on me again in the morning did an internal and i was 7 cm dilated we were so excited as the contractions were really nothing special.
I was then discharged out of the antenatal clinic and down to the birthing center.
On the way down the contractions stated to get worse every 2minutes and they where intense but in a good way. Hoped into the bath on the gas 2 contractions later I was 10 cms dilated I was going to have my baby in the bath.......then they couldn't find her heart beat so they flew me over to the bed I remember Chris getting me out like I was a feather.
The the pushing started it was so painful..... I wanted drugs but nope.... wasn't allowed. My water still was intact so they had to break it to help her out.
It was a pain I'll never forget and if i had to choice between a eppie and a drug free I'll be going to drug free for sure.
I couldn't believe it was giving birth to this baby on my own the midwife was just holding her head!
Then a few pushes later Chloe Elizabeth was born 11 24 am 19th October 2007 7 pounds and 14 ounces 51 cms.
Joel was the first one to see her apart from myself and her Daddy and my gosh.... wasn't he proud! He knew the first time he saw her that she was his.
That this baby belong to us, she completes our family.
The birth's of my Children were amazing experience and if I had to sum it all up...It was life changing!
My name is Sarah and I'm a 23yo SAHM of two beautiful children Joel and Chloe
My partner and I found out we where pregnant very early as I knew something was up as my period was late and my breasts were also killing me.
After waiting a few days we I set of to get a pregnancy test after work, I couldn't wait till Chris got home so I did it straight away
There is was in clear two lines, we were pregnant!
I started to cry and had to get a brown paper bag to calm myself down, after calming down I got on the phone to Chris.
Chris seemed to think that I'm a bit of ditz when it comes to some things so he was going to buy another for me to do when he got home.
So we did and yep pregnant!
So we decided to make a decisions right there and then we would give each other a few days and then tell each other what we wanted.
The two days came and on the count of three we said out loud.... we are having a baby!
All our appointments went by, we find out we were having a little boy, thinking of names none of them where good.
The night October 7th 2007 I went into labour, mild labour nothing serious, though we went and saw my midwife and she sent me home with a few sleeping tablets and some panadol.
I couldn't sleep as the pain was getting worse and more intense, morning come and we went back to my midwife she looked at me and said yep you're in labour and did a internal and said I was only 3 cms dilated and to go home and try and get some rest!
At this time i was overwhelmed by the pain and exhausted. This was only around 9am, by lunch time I was worried and scared so we went back to the hospital were my midwife meet us there and well she did another internal and i was only 4cm dilated.
So she gave us the choice stay here or go home so we stayed there.
She gave me some morphine and I slept for a few hours and woke up so some full blown contractions.
By 8pm that night I was still only4 cm dilated as time went by and by walking up and down the hall way gas come and went I couldn't for the life me overcome these pains.
By 1 am they broke my water to start things along and well didn't that do something....I was in so much pain I couldn't move off the bed.
Chris my partner never left my side. I got all my strength from him, and then as time went by it felt like hours but it was only minutes.
My midwife said it was time for a eppie nothing else was working so we went up stairs to the antenatal word they got me up on the bed and the doctor come in here I was worried about the doctor seeing me naked and Chris was worried about the huge needle he was about to put in my back I will never forget his face it was wild and he looked like he was about to punch the doctor out!
I slept for most of the morning it was about 3 am Joel heart beat started to fade but they kept an eye on his heart and all was fine I feel asleep listening to his heart beat. Chris on the floor trying to sleep.
The midwife come in around 8am and checked me yep I was 10 cms dilated so here we go!! They turned the epidural off as it was time for me to feel the contractions again, oh god I was thinking.
But with every contractions I pushed and Chris whispered in my ear with every big push we get closer to meeting our son!
He was crowning and the midwife asked Chris if he wanted to have a look and so he did and at that moment he also named our son Joel. At 9:05am
Joel Cecil was born 9th October 2007 8 pounds and 4 ounces 51 cms.
Joel was 18mth old and we found out we were pregnant again with our second baby!
We were shocked but so very grateful, it was great telling Joel he was going to be a big brother, yet we knew he didn't fully understand.
It feels like a life time ago I was pregnant but it was only 4 mths ago.
I called my midwife, the same midwife that i had with Joel, and told her I was pregnant and she took me on straight away. Appointments were easy i knew what we where doing this time, the 20 week ultra sound come up and we wanted to know the sex but they couldn't get a good look, so we went for a walk for a while and went back.
She said it looks like a girl 70 percent! That was going to do me. We were going to have a little girl. We were all so excited and happy!
Her due date was the 14th of October not planned at all, I was hoping she didn't come on Joel's second birthday the little girl stayed in. :)
Went in to the midwife on the 15th as bubs was still not out and they where going to induce me on the 20th i wasn't looking forward to that as I have heard some nasty stories.
The night of the 18th come and still no sign's at all then i had unexpected bleeding it started to get a lot heavier so called my midwife and went in and stayed over night while I was monitored.
Everything seemed fine. Joel was staying at his grandmothers and I I was contracting on and off all though the night and with only two sleeping tablets I was sleeping though them it was great! I didn't think i was in labour at all.
Then the doctor come in and check on me again in the morning did an internal and i was 7 cm dilated we were so excited as the contractions were really nothing special.
I was then discharged out of the antenatal clinic and down to the birthing center.
On the way down the contractions stated to get worse every 2minutes and they where intense but in a good way. Hoped into the bath on the gas 2 contractions later I was 10 cms dilated I was going to have my baby in the bath.......then they couldn't find her heart beat so they flew me over to the bed I remember Chris getting me out like I was a feather.
The the pushing started it was so painful..... I wanted drugs but nope.... wasn't allowed. My water still was intact so they had to break it to help her out.
It was a pain I'll never forget and if i had to choice between a eppie and a drug free I'll be going to drug free for sure.
I couldn't believe it was giving birth to this baby on my own the midwife was just holding her head!
Then a few pushes later Chloe Elizabeth was born 11 24 am 19th October 2007 7 pounds and 14 ounces 51 cms.
Joel was the first one to see her apart from myself and her Daddy and my gosh.... wasn't he proud! He knew the first time he saw her that she was his.
That this baby belong to us, she completes our family.
The birth's of my Children were amazing experience and if I had to sum it all up...It was life changing!
Some people need to be slapped....HARD!
I heard a very sad story last night from a fan, so get ready for the RANT!
I know that child abuse is pressing issue, In Australia recently we have some horrible crimes committed against children. I just cant stand when parents make stupid choices and justify their actions by saying at least I'm not bashing my child as if it makes what they are doing OK.
There are three main characters in my story I will refer to them as A, B and C
A- Is the mother of C
B- Is a single guy with no kids
C- Is a 15 month old child
I hope that will make it easier for you to follow.
B invited A and a friend over to his house for a catch up at 6pm at night. A, C and friend didn't arrive until after 10pm.
B was horrified when he saw A giving C coke-cola to drink from a bottle so that she would get hyped up and then fall asleep easily when the sugar hit wore off.
While C was all hyped up on the sugar, caffeine and chemicals in the coke A was smacking her and telling her off for being naughty.
A also sat C on her lap while having a cigarette and when B commented A said that passive smoking was harmless. When B made an uber sarcastic comment about how about you just give her a cigarette then, A stated that she had in fact watched C consume almost a whole packet of smokes once, and she had watched he do it!
B was appalled and spoke to a close friend of mine (B is also a mutual friend) who has a child about the same age as giggle girl (20 months of so) and asked if this was normal practice as he had no real experience with parenting, but he didn't see how it could be RIGHT.
He posted a comment on his facebook status saying- "Did you no that if you feed a child under the age of two Coke it puts them to sleep??? gotta love the logic of some parents...."
He got a few replies thinking he was being serious and also one from our mutual friend who knew the story saying
"Its young mums like that that give the rest of us a bad name.
Children are not an inconvenience to be managed, they are little people!
If you give a child coke to encourage a sugar crash later to get them to go to sleep i would encourage parenting classes ASAP! There are so many HEALTHY methods to get children into a good sleep routine even if they are not in their normal day to day environment.
Pull your head in if this status was directed at you, its not about you anymore!
Think of whats best for your child, not about whats "easy" at the time"
A's response was
"u can get fucked im a gud mum and i do everythin for my little girl and she has everythin she culd possible need and want... i dnt need no fuckin classes... my daughter has a sleep routine and the onli reason she was awake was because there were new ppl around and she was excited.. the coke was given to her because there was nuttin else for her to ... See moredrink wat was i gunna do let her dehidrate pfft.. i kno its not about me its all about my little girl and always has been yous are carryion on about a little bit of coke maybe u shuld go talk to ppl who starve their kids or bash their kids caz i aint doin anythin wrong... my daughter hardly gets coke and gets all the nutrients and gud stuff she needs so dnt any ov u fukin judge me yous hav no rite to god its like i bash my kid or sumfin the way yous are sarryin on'
As its in some strange language from the depths of the Congo jungle I hope you can understand it....i had trouble the first (few) read through.
Her comment about dehydrating was most amusing....what about tap water....or the Milk and filtered water B offered? Apparently not good enough....she had to go out to specifically buy coke for C.
I know this seems like a bit of a personal attack but A is not a fan of this page so its highly unlikely that she will read this.
It just frustrates me to no-end that some parents will justify things that they do by saying well there are people that do worse things than me so that's ok.
Giggle girl is 20 months old, she has NEVER had coke, she once had one small glass of watered down lemonade as a treat on a hot day. I'm a heavy smoker too but NEVER around her, I have never needed a cigarette so badly that i would be willing to expose my child the chemicals that even I know i shouldn't put into my body.
So i would love to hear feedback on this.
What are your thoughts on the whole sordid story??
Love and Smiles
Z
xox
I know that child abuse is pressing issue, In Australia recently we have some horrible crimes committed against children. I just cant stand when parents make stupid choices and justify their actions by saying at least I'm not bashing my child as if it makes what they are doing OK.
There are three main characters in my story I will refer to them as A, B and C
A- Is the mother of C
B- Is a single guy with no kids
C- Is a 15 month old child
I hope that will make it easier for you to follow.
B invited A and a friend over to his house for a catch up at 6pm at night. A, C and friend didn't arrive until after 10pm.
B was horrified when he saw A giving C coke-cola to drink from a bottle so that she would get hyped up and then fall asleep easily when the sugar hit wore off.
While C was all hyped up on the sugar, caffeine and chemicals in the coke A was smacking her and telling her off for being naughty.
A also sat C on her lap while having a cigarette and when B commented A said that passive smoking was harmless. When B made an uber sarcastic comment about how about you just give her a cigarette then, A stated that she had in fact watched C consume almost a whole packet of smokes once, and she had watched he do it!
B was appalled and spoke to a close friend of mine (B is also a mutual friend) who has a child about the same age as giggle girl (20 months of so) and asked if this was normal practice as he had no real experience with parenting, but he didn't see how it could be RIGHT.
He posted a comment on his facebook status saying- "Did you no that if you feed a child under the age of two Coke it puts them to sleep??? gotta love the logic of some parents...."
He got a few replies thinking he was being serious and also one from our mutual friend who knew the story saying
"Its young mums like that that give the rest of us a bad name.
Children are not an inconvenience to be managed, they are little people!
If you give a child coke to encourage a sugar crash later to get them to go to sleep i would encourage parenting classes ASAP! There are so many HEALTHY methods to get children into a good sleep routine even if they are not in their normal day to day environment.
Pull your head in if this status was directed at you, its not about you anymore!
Think of whats best for your child, not about whats "easy" at the time"
A's response was
"u can get fucked im a gud mum and i do everythin for my little girl and she has everythin she culd possible need and want... i dnt need no fuckin classes... my daughter has a sleep routine and the onli reason she was awake was because there were new ppl around and she was excited.. the coke was given to her because there was nuttin else for her to ... See moredrink wat was i gunna do let her dehidrate pfft.. i kno its not about me its all about my little girl and always has been yous are carryion on about a little bit of coke maybe u shuld go talk to ppl who starve their kids or bash their kids caz i aint doin anythin wrong... my daughter hardly gets coke and gets all the nutrients and gud stuff she needs so dnt any ov u fukin judge me yous hav no rite to god its like i bash my kid or sumfin the way yous are sarryin on'
As its in some strange language from the depths of the Congo jungle I hope you can understand it....i had trouble the first (few) read through.
Her comment about dehydrating was most amusing....what about tap water....or the Milk and filtered water B offered? Apparently not good enough....she had to go out to specifically buy coke for C.
I know this seems like a bit of a personal attack but A is not a fan of this page so its highly unlikely that she will read this.
It just frustrates me to no-end that some parents will justify things that they do by saying well there are people that do worse things than me so that's ok.
Giggle girl is 20 months old, she has NEVER had coke, she once had one small glass of watered down lemonade as a treat on a hot day. I'm a heavy smoker too but NEVER around her, I have never needed a cigarette so badly that i would be willing to expose my child the chemicals that even I know i shouldn't put into my body.
So i would love to hear feedback on this.
What are your thoughts on the whole sordid story??
Love and Smiles
Z
xox
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
Pre-baby Jitters.
My husband and I were only married 9 weeks when we found out we were pregnant, and already 6 weeks along!
We didn't really have that newlywed all about us stage. As soon as I saw that test everything changed dramatically for me at that moment.
I quit smoking IMMEDIATELY, I tied to eat correctly even though at the beginning all I wanted to eat was plain cheese pizza, I didn't drink any alcohol.
All the things an expecting mum usually does.
For my husband things where a bit different.
He's in the Australian Defence force so was still going away with work 3.5 days out of most weeks during the entire pregnancy. So that meant that he was away most weekends, and I was home alone in a city a long way away form my family. I didn't have many friends nearby and all that were nearby didn't have children. I have never felt so alone.
It didn't help that every weekend he was away he was still going out and partying.
I knew he was excited about being a dad, I knew he was supportive and loved me completely and utterly, but i felt neglected and like I was doing this pregnancy on my own.
Because of work my husband was unable to attend any of my anti-natal appointments so he didn't get to hear our daughters heartbeat for the first time with me.
He was able to attend both of the ultrasounds that we had, thank goodness!
I was really concerned that I would be for all purposes a single parent when the baby arrived.
I was jealous that he was still living a single guy life (without other women of course) and I was feeling like a crazy lonely cat lady! (minus the cats)
I was excited about becoming a mum, but grieving the loss of my freedom.
To be honest, I was worried, really worried, could we do this... and could we do it together?
As soon as giggle girl arrived everything fell into place. Hubby stepped up as a husband and father and i cannot fault a single thing he has done since she was born.
She completed us. She makes us giggle. She makes us re-capture our own youth everyday. Not doing the things that many others the same age as us do, drinking and going out. We recapture our own childhoods and youth though doing things WITH her, as a family.
And that's how it will stay, the three of us, doing things together.
As a side note he has decided to get out of defence as he can't stand to miss out on so much of her life with being away for work. Before she was born I'm sure he would be in for life. Ahhh....how children change things....but always for the better.
Love and Smile
Z
xox
We didn't really have that newlywed all about us stage. As soon as I saw that test everything changed dramatically for me at that moment.
I quit smoking IMMEDIATELY, I tied to eat correctly even though at the beginning all I wanted to eat was plain cheese pizza, I didn't drink any alcohol.
All the things an expecting mum usually does.
For my husband things where a bit different.
He's in the Australian Defence force so was still going away with work 3.5 days out of most weeks during the entire pregnancy. So that meant that he was away most weekends, and I was home alone in a city a long way away form my family. I didn't have many friends nearby and all that were nearby didn't have children. I have never felt so alone.
It didn't help that every weekend he was away he was still going out and partying.
I knew he was excited about being a dad, I knew he was supportive and loved me completely and utterly, but i felt neglected and like I was doing this pregnancy on my own.
Because of work my husband was unable to attend any of my anti-natal appointments so he didn't get to hear our daughters heartbeat for the first time with me.
He was able to attend both of the ultrasounds that we had, thank goodness!
I was really concerned that I would be for all purposes a single parent when the baby arrived.
I was jealous that he was still living a single guy life (without other women of course) and I was feeling like a crazy lonely cat lady! (minus the cats)
I was excited about becoming a mum, but grieving the loss of my freedom.
To be honest, I was worried, really worried, could we do this... and could we do it together?
As soon as giggle girl arrived everything fell into place. Hubby stepped up as a husband and father and i cannot fault a single thing he has done since she was born.
She completed us. She makes us giggle. She makes us re-capture our own youth everyday. Not doing the things that many others the same age as us do, drinking and going out. We recapture our own childhoods and youth though doing things WITH her, as a family.
And that's how it will stay, the three of us, doing things together.
As a side note he has decided to get out of defence as he can't stand to miss out on so much of her life with being away for work. Before she was born I'm sure he would be in for life. Ahhh....how children change things....but always for the better.
Love and Smile
Z
xox
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