Sisters are doing it for themselves......and its all about them....
I have noticed a trend. Women are each others worst enemy.
If a guy doesn't like someone they don't speak to them or they duke it out and go back to beers. Women seem to keep their friends close and their enemies closer, so at least they are in the bitching loop.
When I was in the navy if I wanted to break the rules and sneak up to Mr Presidents room for some after hours snuggles I made sure I waited until it was all males on duty and then just straight out told them where I was going and why. If I went while there was a female on duty you can bet your bottom dollar that the next day I would be called into an office and be run in and charged for it. Why? Man code. Guys will lie to protect other guys. The blokes on duty knew if they dobbed me in Mr President would be in shit too.
So why is there no woman code?
Why are we all so keen to pick at the faults of other women?
It gets worse when you are a mother, there is an extra thing to judge you on. (even if you are doing a great job) along with judging you on the usual things. Hair, makeup, clothing, weight, intelligence, education, pay bracket, shoes, marital or single status, what car you drive, handbag you carry as well as how your partner fits into all of the above categories (other than makeup and handbags)
Why are we so keen to see the pitfalls of someone else? And once some women find a weak point why are they so quick to pick at that scab to see what's underneath?
Where's the support?
I have a friend who's son started school this year and she is known by the other school mums as the "weird hippy lady" because of the way she dresses and because she isn't interested on carrying a $300 purse to do the school run. Why isn't she known for being lovely and happy all the time, the mum that has all the time in the world for her kids and many of the other reasons why I think she's great.
I have heard that there are still examples of women supporting women, and I know some great women myself....but that is a minority.
A group of mums I know in Canberra is experiencing the biggest case of in-fighting, deception and backstabbing I have ever seen, and I should know, I went to a private school that was 90% girls.
i don't know and i don't really care who is to blame, put people are getting very very upset about it, to the point where they are getting sick!
Aren't there bigger things to worry about.
My mum always said when I was whinging as a teenager about how hard my life was, that if I wanted to see hard that she would take me to the cancer ward of a children's hospital.
I think that a lot of mums need to re-think how they view others and maybe follow the old adage "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"
and maybe if you think your life is scrapping so low that putting others down make you feel better about yourself, maybe your energy would be better put into use volunteering in a children's hospital. because god knows if you are low enough to bitch about them you need to move to a deserted island because there is no hope for you.
Love and Smiles