I recently spoke to a friend of mine who is finally pregnant after a lot of terrible experiences and losses over the past few years.Im so exited for her because I know that she has done everything thing she possibly can to ensure that she has a healthy viable pregnancy, she quit smoking, changed her lifestyle and worked really hard so that she could come off her anti-depressants. I'm so proud of her1
But something she said disturbed me. Her doctor has told her that she should book into for an elective cesarean.....because she is too small to have a natural birth. Shes only 20 weeks pregnant!!!
She is a very petite person (about 5ft tall and I'm guessing a size 6-8) but I was a similar size when I fell pregnant with giggle girl (I then went to to gain a shitload of weight to become the Squishybum mum I am today)
I am so annoyed at her doctor, how can they take away her power so early. They have basically told her don't even bother trying...it won't happen. How dare they! This woman has worked so hard to get the baby that she has dreamed of for so long, so for them to be dismissing her birthing ability before the event can't help her self confidence. (and how would they know anyhow....shes only half way along....how would they have a clue how big bubba is going to be...or how small...
I spoke to another friend of mine who wrote a previous guest blog for me, Aus gaia ...She was told by the sonographer, when she was pregnant with her second child, that there was no way that she could give birth vaginally....he was too big and her pelvis would be most definitely break in the process and she would end up in a half body cast. She ignored him.
It took her only 1.5 hours to give birth to her son she walked down to the sonographer with a midwife and said..."I told you so!...after which he was suspended (he had been calling her at home telling her she HAD to have a C-section.
So I would like to hear some positive stories for my friend, to let her know that just beause she is petite doesn't mean that she cant have the birth that she wants.
To my friend, Bi....this is what I want to say to you....You are one of the strongest women I know, you have been through so much already and for let some doctor try to tell you that your body is incapable of doing what it was designed with the primal function to do is revolting! YOU CAN DO THIS!
Love and smiles